How to Use Sex Furniture
Sex furniture isn't just about comfort—it’s about unlocking new angles, enhancing intimacy, and taking your pleasure to the next level. Whether you're using a simple wedge pillow or a full-fledged bondage chair, the right piece can transform your bedroom adventures. In this guide, we’ll break down how to use different types of sex furniture, from positioning aids to more adventurous setups, so you can make the most of your erotic play.
How to use sex furniture
How to use sex furniture will depend on which item you have purchased.
The wedges, ramps, and chairs are all fairly self-explanatory. They elevate existing sex positions and/or help you maintain them longer and more comfortably.
The sex swings and slings will need specific instructions according to their manufacturer but are, typically, not too difficult either.
Couples play
Whether you need a helping hand with your mobility or just want to add another option in the bedroom, sex furniture is built with couples in mind.
Internal stimulation
Hit those hard to reach spots: better, harder and longer!
Getting some assistance for deeper penetration at a better angle can help you stimulate the g-spot or a-spot with targeted vigor!
BDSM/Power-play
The suspensions, wedges, ramps and restraints also lend themselves to a bit of BDSM/power-play too. Some will even have built-in fastening points where you can attach some cuffs or a rope! A simple sex wedge can also easily be turned into a kinky gadget if you introduce a blindfold and some stern orders to whoever is sitting on it.
How to Use BDSM Furniture
The correct way to use BDSM furniture relies on the specific product itself; always follow the instructions and be sure that the furniture piece is correctly assembled before use.
From spanking benches and sex tables, to sex machines and sex swings, each product is beautifully unique in it’s purpose and use.
Just incase you’re looking for a bit of information on the general use of BDSM furniture, here’s a few pointers we’ve put together for you:
Safety first
When it comes to any kind of furniture, the first thing you want to know is that it’s safe! If you are assembling the BDSM furniture on your own, ensure you follow the instructions provided.
For example, when assembling an ‘over the door’ sex swing, you’ll need to make sure the hooks which hold the swing onto the closed door, are correctly positioned, and that the door is able to hold the weight of the person who will be using the swing.
Choosing the right one
There is so much choice when it comes to BDSM furniture, that it can feel overwhelming when trying to choose what is right for you.
The best thing to do is think about what turns you on, and what you would like to venture out and try. Maybe you’re into being submissive, or maybe you’re more of a dominant- whatever you are, there’s a piece of BDSM furniture for you.
You might be into suspension, and so a sex swing might get you off; if you’re more into lighter play, some bondage tape could really get you going.
Whatever you’re in to, BDSM furniture can elevate your fantasies, and unlock your sexual confidence; don’t be afraid to shop around, and do some research to see what you like- it’s the only way we get to know ourselves!
Sizing
You wouldn’t buy a piece of clothing without knowing the size, so don’t do it with BDSM furniture!
With any piece of BDSM furniture, you’ll need to know if the size is compatible with you; this is for both safety and comfort.
With any piece of BDSM furniture which is designed to hold a person, there will be a weight limit listed; always check this to ensure it is suitable for you, or the person using it.
How to use a BDSM Yoke
BDSM yokes look kind of scary and intimidating at first, don’t they! But they’re actually not that scary, and using them isn’t too tricky. But we’re going to go through a few of the main points, just in case you do have any questions about using your yoke.
Make sure your bondage yoke is good to go!
Before anyone gets strapped into the bondage yoke, it is important to ensure that the yoke is in perfect condition and good to go. Check everything is working, that you have all you need, and that there’s nothing that will cause any harm or damage. When you’re happy that everything looks good…it’s time to get to work!
Check that you're both on the same page!
It’s always a good idea to make sure you’re both on the same page regarding what’s going to be happening while using the yoke. Having that informed consent means you both understand what kind of thing you’re going to be getting up to, and agree that you both want to do it!
Attach the bondage yoke and have fun!
It’s time to get that bondage yoke strapped on! Make sure that you adjust it, so it’s comfortable for you (or your sub). It’s all about having fun and restricting their movements, but comfort is also a priority too. No one’s going to be that turned on if they are in pain or uncomfortable while wearing something! And don’t forget to have fun!
Know when to stop!
Understanding each other’s limits is essential when using bondage yokes. You both need to understand when enough is enough. That’s part of the reason why you need to establish a safety word and respect your partner’s decision if they choose to say it. It ensures that everything remains safe and fun, and that no one is pushed further than they want to go.
Using a BDSM Yoke Safely
BDSM yokes are amazingly fun, naughty, and exciting! That’s just a fact! But when you’re using them it’s super important to keep safety at the forefront of your mind, no matter how horny you are! So let’s go through how to use your bondage yokes safely!
Find something you're both comfortable using!
Not everyone has the same experience level when it comes to bondage yokes. Finding something that suits both you AND your partner is essential to having good BDSM bondage fun!
Make sure you get their informed consent!
Before strapping your partner into the bondage yoke, make sure that you talk with them and you both understand what is about to happen. You both need to know what you’re getting into and what kind of thing to expect. It’s pretty vital that you’re both on the same page!
Establish a safeword!
As we’re sure you can imagine, being in a BDSM yoke for quite some time can get a little bit taxing and tiring – no matter how fun it is! So if you ever need to stop and take a break, you need to establish a safeword. That is, a word that when spoken indicates that you need to stop and take a break. If you hear your partner calling out the safeword you need to stop whatever you’re doing straight away and take them out of the yoke!
Aftercare is important too!
Looking after your BDSM yoke is important if you want to be able to use it time and time again. So after each and every use it’s important to check that everything is still working as it should be and there’s nothing that could cause any damage or harm. This is an easy enough task to do while cleaning up!
How to use a sex couch
Here are some tips on how to incorporate a sex couch into your play!
Assembly
Many of the sex couches recommended here are easy to assemble, and won’t require too much effort to set up! That being said, if you’re struggling with assembly, there are many great YouTube videos out there detailing the process, with tips and tricks from others that have been where you are!
Solo
There’s nothing wrong with riding solo! The Zeppelin Cocoon is perfect for luxury masturbation sessions with your favorite toys (not included), just get yourself comfortable and treat yourself! You might also find that sex couches help you discover new positions while you’re on your own, so you can introduce them to a partner should you wish!
Couples play
Sex couches are great for exploring and experimenting with new positions for you and your partner. They can also make your favorite positions a whole lot more comfortable!
Sex room
A sex room is a great investment in your pleasure. If you have the space for it, a dedicated sex room is a fantastic place to put a sex couch, along with other sex furniture that’s sure to boost your play! Plus, it gives you the ability to explore your fantasies with all the necessary equipment at hand.
How to Use a BDSM Cage
Using a BDSM cage is fairly straightforward, but there are a few variations you can try. While the available options will largely depend on the type of cage you have, I’ll go over them anyway to give you some ideas!
Standing
If your sub is standing in their cage, you can let them free roam or restrain them. Possible options include using cuffs or ropes. As standing cages generally offer the most space, you’ll also be able to poke, prod, or your sub with any toys/discipline tools you have on hand.
On Their Knees
If your sub is in a cage that forces them to get onto their knees, they’re already stuck in the perfect submissive position. While you can simply leave them there to ponder the situation they’ve found themselves in, further restraining them or using toys on them are also two vital options.
With Accessories
Some cages offer integrated accessories (such as butt plugs) that you can use on your sub. If your cage has a flat metal plate, this can be used to mount suction cup dildos or any other suction-cup toys for your sub to enjoy.
How to use a bondage board
Bondage boards offer a lot of versatility and can be used to tie your partner up in many, many positions, so your imagination really is the limit! Here are a few ideas to get your bondage board adventure started!
Doggy
Bind your partners wrists forearms, legs and ankles to the board for a bondage take on this classic sex position!
Bound Butterfly
Have your partner lie on their back with knees bent and open their legs like the wings of a butterfly, giving you wide open access!
The Frog
Start on all fours and with your knees open, push you bum back towards your feet. From here lower your front body down and bring your hands back towards your legs. Restraint both ankles and wrists.
How to use BDSM stockades
BDSM stockades can often look scary and intimidating, and using them isn’t always so obvious. But that’s okay, we’re here to help explain how you use them! So let’s get to it!
Check that your stockade is in good condition!
Checking that your stockades are in good working condition before using them is pretty essential. After all, you don’t want to strap your sub into them, only for them to discover something potentially harmful is wrong with them! Putting in the groundwork beforehand ensures that things go smoothly and sexily once you get going!
Make sure you both agree to what's going to happen!
You and your partner both need to know what you’re letting yourself in for when using stockades! Talking to your partner and getting them to explain their wants, needs, and desires is a great idea. Similarly, you should explain your wants, needs, and desires. You need to be on the same page when using BDSM stockades if you want things to stay fun and – more importantly – safe!
Strap in and get going!
Once you’re both ready to go, you’re going to need to strap your sub into the BDSM stockade. You want to ensure that it’s secured tight enough for them not to be able to escape, but not so tight that it causes them any pain or discomfort. Once you’re both happy, it’s time to get going. Enjoy!
Know each other's limits!
Everyone has limits, and it’s no different when using BDSM stockades. Understanding what your partner wants and doesn’t want is important, and knowing when to stop is just as much part of using the stockades as all the fun and naughty stuff. If you or your partner decide that enough is enough, then it’s time to stop, get out of those stockades, and either take a break or call it a day.